How To Coach
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1. Notice and praise pro-social behaviors.
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| Shares |
Takes turns |
| Listens attentively |
Plays fair |
| Makes eye contact |
Speaks when spoken to |
| Can lose gracefully |
Lets others lead |
| Speaks up |
Lets others talk too |
| Asks about peer's interests |
Shares things about herself |
| Cooperates |
Asks, does not demand |
| Apologizes when necessary |
Respects body space of peers |
| Joins in a group |
Starts conversations |
| Can wait to talk |
Helps others |
| Complementing peers |
Follows rules |
| Asks for what she wants |
Being assertive |
| Expresses feelings in words |
Handles anger without aggression |
2. Help your child set a behavioral goal: a plan to improve one social skill.
For younger or sensitive kids who are not yet ready to handle this,
it might work best to first have them notice the unhelpful or helpful things that others do (in other
words, look at the list about others first.) This can help your child feel less stigmatized
or blamed. You can also use the list to help your child think about what they would like in
a potential friend, and how to think about "what makes a better friend, the kind of person I want
to seek out."
Some things which make a good friend might be:
| Listens well to friends |
Interrupting less |
| Keeping cool even when angry |
Stays calm even when excited |
| Asking questions of friends |
Makes suggestions |
| Shares |
Not being bossy |
| Letting my friend choose |
Not hitting or yelling |
| Playing by the rules |
Taking turns |
| Talking less |
Being a good sport (good loser) |
| Joining a conversation |
Noticing what others are doing |
| Looking at the speaker |
Playing more quietly |
| NO whining or complaining |
Not teasing |
| Not bugging others |
Not always having to get my way |
| Letting others talk more |
Cooperating better |
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