Why Parents of Children With Autism and School Systems Need to Work Together

School systems across the country are facing anhow to work with a child with autism.
uphill battle. With autism on the rise, schoolFurthermore, school systems have not been
systems are taking in more and more studentsprepared to deal with this inflow of children with
who are on the spectrum. Although manyautism. They do not have the resources available
systems have trained staff in place, most districtsto provide help, and when they do the cost can
are at a loss of what to do and how to handlebe extremely high. When all of these factors
the situation. Parents are becoming increasinglycome crashing together, the powder keg is ignited
frustrated and in some cases, schools are beingand explodes into difficult, painful and sometimes
sued in order for a child to receive properlitigious situation.
therapy. This does not need to be the case ifThis situation can be avoided if both school
both parents and school staff work together tosystem and parent are willing to work together to
provide the proper environment. First andattempt to solve challenges and celebrate
foremost, a school is not a place for a parent tosuccesses. This means understanding each others
drop off their child to be babysat, especially if thatlanguage and communicating to each other about
child has special needs. A school is a place forthe child. Parents know their child best and also
learning, social skills building as well as a place tospend the most time with them. The know if
learn life skills. Many parents of children withtheir child has had a bad day or if they did not eat
special needs put an enormous burden on a schoola good breakfast. They also know what works
to provide everything their child needs withoutwill with their children and what reinforces them.
providing any support. The reality is, if thisAll of this is knowledge that a teacher needs to
happens, the child will fail and nobody wins.know on a daily, weekly or quarterly basis. When
The key to having success in school for a childa parent contacts a teacher and tells them about
with autism is to form a team mentality with thea negative or positive situation that happened at
school and its staff. Take time to work togetherhome, a teacher can either be prepared to
to create the environment to best suit the child,counter act a behavior or praise and celebrate an
not the parents or the schools best interests. Inaccomplishment. It is also extremely important for
order to do this, both sides need to be on thea school to be as open as possible.
same page, speak the same language andA school needs to develop a plan to over
understand where each other is coming from.communicate with a parent and let them know all
Raising a child with autism can be a daunting task.that is going on, so that both sides can work
Parents of children with autism are frequentlytogether to solve problems or reinforce positive
exhausted. A large number of children with autismactions. Finally, the school and the parent need to
stay up all night and finally fall asleep at 4 or 5 inbe trained on how to work with children with
the morning. Parents are working long hours andautism. School systems need to have training in
then have to come home to take care of a childplace not only for their Special Education
who may have numerous challenges. ParentsDepartment, but also for their para professionals,
have spent every penny they have on therapy,and general education staff. Each person in this
and are reaching out for help in the best waychild's life needs to know how to work on bad
they know how. Many times that way is to dropbehaviors and reinforce positive behaviors. They
them off at school in hopes that by the end ofneed to be proactive, not reactive in their
that day their child as progressed in some way.teaching to develop their student to the fullest
At the same time teachers are attempting topotential. Parents need to be trained so that they
work with every child in their class both typicalcan take what was learned at school and help
and special needs to help them learn. Each childdevelop skills and work on behaviors. When both
has their own challenge, but the addition of a childsides have open communication, are realistic about
with autism can make a teachers day much morea child's goals and work together the child with
difficult, especially if that teacher does not knowautism has a much better chance of success.