The Value of a Relationship Approach to Autism

In aiding children with developmental challenges,In order for children with developmental concerns
we must first realize that this requires a teamto be able to integrate more into the social
effort and a strengths based approach. It issphere, it is necessary that they not be isolated
necessary to not focus on what the child cannotinto situations where they are labeled and shuffled
do but look at what the child can accomplish andaway from typical peers. Rather, they should be
build upon this. Parents can enlist the support ofincluded as much as possible with typical peers.
professionals but must realize that it is they whoThey may need additional support and
are the most important persons in the child's lifeaccommodations, but how will they begin to learn
and that furthering the development of their childimportant skills unless they have frequent and
is not just the work of professionals but is acontinuous exposure to the world around them. I
collaborative effort from everyone involved withhave developed the use of what I term 'real life
the child. It is necessary that for any interventionsrehearsals', where we may set up a particular
to truly be effective and helpful, that they mustsocial scenario for a child. It may be such a thing
be consistent and constant. The interventionsas being able to make a purchase at the grocery
must be the same throughout all domains that thestore. The therapist and parents guide and coach
child is present in.the child ahead of time in how to go about such
It is crucial for us to understand thean activity and then have them actually
environmental responses that children have,demonstrate it. Social stories and comic strip
whether they have developmental concerns orconversations are very useful in conveying
even if they do not. If a teacher, parent, or otherinformation as these children tend to be visual
person has a hostile tone, a poor demeanor, alearners. Social stories can be simply made
loud voice, etc. All of these things can bebooklets that the child helps to create where a
overwhelming to the child and can provoke aparticular task or scenario is outlined with what
behavioral response. All behavior is purposeful andbehaviors are expected. The comic strip
should be looked upon as so, even negativeconversation is helpful in building empathic skills as
behaviors. Behaviors are a way of the childwell as reflective thinking as we ask the child to
speaking to us about a distressing situation or andevelop captions for what different individuals
apparent need or desire when they may not bemay state and think in various situations.
able to convey this to us verbally. Light, sound,Lastly, I think it is crucial, though it may appear
and other sensory stimuli can also producecontroversial to some, to state that children with
distress for a child. We need to create awarenessdevelopmental concerns can and will be benefited
of what in the environment may serve asfrom a psycho-social and relationship based
triggers to distress and seek to modify theapproach alone. Some have decided to resort to
environment to make it a more comfortable andmedications, and I am placing no blame or
safe place for the child. We must also be cautiouscondemnation on those who have made this
in how we view children. If we look at a childdecision, however making a suggestion that there
displaying negative behavior as a 'monster' or feelare alternatives and informing of these
that because a child may be rambunctious atalternatives as well as the hazards of
times that we must automatically resort topsychotropic medication usage. First, I will not
medicating them, then we have taken aargue that medications can 'work' in the sense of
negativistic attitude that will surely be passed onsubduing behavior. However, strapping a child to a
to the child. Children are keenly aware, evenchair would also work in regards to subduing
those with communication struggles, of adult'sbehavior. This would be aversive and quite
perceptions of them. We should look at ourpossible illegal. I see little difference between such
children through the eyes of delight and addressan approach and that of using psychiatric
behavioral difficulties not in terms of how we canmedication. The difference is that one is a physical
subdue, but rather how we can meet needs andrestraint, the other a chemical restraint. When we
resolve conflict and remove distress.say that something 'works', often we are not
The floor time model is of particular usefulness inlooking at the mechanism by which it works. Dr.
working with children with communication andPeter R. Breggin, MD compared the use of anti
social struggles. For those children who arepsychotic medications in children to 'chemical
non-verbal, we can begin to introduce hand signals,lobotomy' as it blunts the functions of the frontal
moving to use of pictures, and then graduallylobes. The risk of tardive dyskinesia, a permanent
encouraging the child to make use of words ordisfiguring neurological impairment exists with
phrases to indicate desires. It is not importantthese drugs. In addition, such drugs as Risperdal
initially whether the verbalizations are correct butare prescribed off label and are not indicated for
rather that a verbal attempt was made. When aanyone below the age of 18 but continue to be
child displays such a behavior as spinning objects,prescribed.
in the floor time model, we would not beIt may require more diligence, effort, and
aversive, but rather gently introduce a new toypatience, but I remain convinced after working
or object and seek to divert the child to a morewith over 40 children with developmental
productive activity. In situations of echolalia, wechallenges, that relationship based approaches,
can say such things as 'that's TV talk', andrather than chemical restraint, prove to be a true
provide means to divert this to a different meansmeans to teach our children skills, to focus on
of conversing. It is important to provide the childtheir strengths, to build on their development, and
with understandable signals and meaningfulto help address challenging behaviors and to
statements and phrases when we are desiringaddress the real source of conflict and distress
them to behave in a different way.rather than just blunting it.