| Behavioral problems in young children and how to | | | | shaking the child trying to restore order. This |
| deal with them as parents is an issue of | | | | makes matters worse and all involved become |
| enormous importance if we are to enjoy a happy | | | | the losers. In former times misbehavior was often |
| and fulfilled family life. | | | | met with a short, sharp slap on the backside - |
| Do it wrong and you set yourself up for huge | | | | most of us experienced that at some stage, and |
| problems with the approach of the pre-teen | | | | to be fair to my own parents I must say that it |
| years and beyond. Parenting is an art and is one | | | | did me no harm - it was expected that this would |
| which must be sensitively managed as we lead | | | | be the just reward for 'stepping over the line' and |
| our young children to become responsible adults | | | | the same misdemeanour was rarely repeated. |
| of the future. It's important to read the books, go | | | | Today however, in many places around the world |
| to the parenting classes and particularly listen to | | | | this method is no longer acceptable. In New |
| those who have been there and done all that | | | | Zealand for example it is now possible for a |
| successfully in the past. | | | | parent to end up before the courts with heavy |
| The first step in good parenting is to make sure | | | | fines or even imprisonment if a complaint is laid |
| that we have our own house in order. Young | | | | by a member of the public who has witnessed |
| children learn by example and are constantly | | | | you slapping your own child. This has not been |
| watching and copying the actions and behavior of | | | | popular legislation since many feel that their rights |
| those around them. They are expert mimmicks - | | | | as parents to discipline their children as they best |
| monkey see, monkey do - it's natural to them! | | | | see it have been compromised. |
| For example there seems absolutely no logic in | | | | But is slapping and other physical measures the |
| disciplining a child for bad behavior like screaming | | | | best solution anyway? - it looks and sounds |
| and shouting at others if we are doing it ourselves | | | | barbaric in public and in private is more inclined to |
| - it's really just plain common sense. But all the | | | | get completely out of hand and develop into |
| preparation in the world cannot prepare the new | | | | staight out physical abuse. I am more inclined to |
| parent for the embarrassment of unexplained | | | | favor the view of the 'soft' approach these days. |
| tantrums in the supermarket or in some other | | | | Many non-contact methods for getting a good |
| public place with what feels like the eyes of the | | | | outcome exist but the ground rules have to be |
| world watching on. | | | | established right at the start and that means |
| Many unfortunate children suffer from disorders | | | | leading by example. There are many very helpful |
| like Autism, ADHD or even hearing impairment | | | | resources available to coach parents along this |
| and other medical conditions which can be directly | | | | difficult journey - it is a good plan to seek them |
| attributed to their behavior problems and thus | | | | out early. A happy, contented family unit is a truly |
| require specialist care and treatment. Common | | | | rewarding experience which invariably filters out |
| everyday toddler tantrums generally occur | | | | into the community around us and into the wider |
| between the ages of two and four years and are | | | | world for the good of all. |
| quickly outgrown being part of the natural | | | | I have a business friend who is unquestionably the |
| personality assertiveness associated with | | | | world's best authority on straightening out child |
| increasing awareness. Later, by far the majority | | | | behavior difficulties. She had been terrorized by |
| of child behavioral difficulties like disobedience, | | | | her own kids and now has a program in place |
| disrespect, aggression, truancy, stealing and | | | | that has been a life-saver to herself and hundreds |
| untruthfulness have far more serious | | | | of other parents, many of whom have literally |
| consequences and must be dealt with as soon as | | | | been at breaking point. Best of all she doesn't talk |
| they begin to surface within the family unit. | | | | down to you with all that child 'psycho' stuff. You |
| Repeated outbursts can create real trauma for | | | | can get to contact Gail through the link below |
| the parent resulting in frustration and even anger | | | | which will take you to my travel site and from |
| and there is a danger here where the parents | | | | there you will be redirected straight to her for |
| themselves lose control and resort to physical | | | | help. Do it now before you go totally 'bananas'! |
| counter-measures like shouting and slapping or | | | | |