Here's a Simple Step to Teach Empathy to Your Asperger's Child

The average person is tuned to the followingpaste a picture of the person's face in this circle).
station, WIIFM. This station is called, "What's In ItNow draw some spokes, like that of a bicycle
For Me?"wheel, going out from the circle. At the end of
However, the average person is selfish enough toeach spoke, draw a box.
realize that he needs to be tuned into his friend'sOne box will be: Things she likes to do:
thoughts, feelings, interests, etc. in order to makeAnother box will be: Information about her family:
and maintain friendships.Another box will be: Information about his school
I have been reading a great book, called Solutionsor job:
for Asperger's Adults, in which the author statesAnd another box will be: Types of foods or
that many Asperger's individuals actually haverestaurants she likes.
'people blindness'. In other words, they are just asSince many children with mild autism or
selfish as the average NT (neurotypical person).Asperger's are very visual thinkers, it will be
But their mind is wired such that they are 'blind' tohelpful for them to think of these visual webs as
other's thoughts, feelings, and interests. It's almostcomputer files in their brains that help them
like the world is out of focus when it comes toremember information about each friend. As they
other people.continue to get to know their friend, they can add
Unfortunately, over time, individuals with mildmore boxes with more information.
autism and Asperger's come to realize that theyThe emphasis here is not rote learning of a bunch
are not connecting with the social world. Theyof facts to be robotically repeated to their friend.
may want to, but every time they try to do so,But what it does do is as follows:a) It helps them
they find themselves isolated.realize that people are separate from theimselves,
Michelle Winner Garcia, author of the Socialwith their own thoughts, feelings, and emotions.b)
Thinking materials, has come up with a veryIt gives them a set of facts from which to draw
helpful buidling block to help you teach your childupon to engage the other person in conversation
to begin developing the tools necessary to relateor in play.
to others effectively. And, by the way, this canSince many children with Aspergers are 'people
be helpful for NT's as well!blind' in the way they think, this simple exercise
She encourages the child to draw out a visualgives them a beginning reference point to start
web. If you understand the concept of a mindpaying attention to the people around them,
map, this is much like that.particularly the ones they want to 'join with' as
Here is how she designs visual webs for herfriends.
students.I hope you find this material helpful as one of the
At the center of a blank piece of paper, draw afirst foundational building blocks toward teaching
circle. In the circle, write the name of a personyour child with mild autism or Asperger's empathy.
you are getting to know.: (You may also want to