| Does your Asperger's kid suddenly become angry | | | | or they misinterpreted their thoughts altogether. |
| and distraught over something small like a missing | | | | So what can parents do to help these kids with |
| toothbrush? Or a loose board on the porch? It | | | | these frustrations? If the child is exhibiting |
| may seem like they over-react to the small things | | | | threatening behavior and seems unable to control |
| that happen, but it is a fact that Asperger's | | | | it, then getting them to work with a professional |
| children have little emotional control and get | | | | is the best approach if they don't already have |
| frustrated easily. That's where they need your | | | | one. Many times, a counselor can provide |
| help and the help of others qualified in the area of | | | | techniques or methods for the child to deal with |
| emotions. | | | | their feelings. Also, a counselor can provide a |
| So how does your child show their frustration? Do | | | | parent with valuable insight and tools for helping |
| they withdraw to someplace they feel safe? Do | | | | the child deal with their feelings. There are also |
| they yell and cry? Do they throw things and hurt | | | | medications that a doctor can prescribe to help |
| people? And what do you do when you child gets | | | | calm these outbursts and let the child think it |
| frustrated? Do you take it personally? Or do you | | | | through. |
| jump in sooth them when they are on the brink | | | | A child who is obviously frustrated but not |
| of crying? Do you give them time alone to try to | | | | particularly threatening or violent still needs help |
| deal with it? Is it best to talk about the issue or | | | | and parents can provide that through on the fly |
| let it go? Parents don't want to spend a lot of | | | | discussions. An older child can be reasoned with on |
| time discussing the case of the missing toothbrush | | | | what triggered the outburst and how they can |
| and how the child should have handled it when | | | | deal with it the next time. It's important that |
| there may be more pressing issues in the | | | | these discussion be held calmly and rationally. If |
| household to discuss. | | | | the child feels accused or threatened themselves, |
| Children with Asperger's Syndrome have a low | | | | then they will not be receptive to what the |
| toleration for frustration. It is understandable that | | | | parents have to say and it may help to have a |
| the frustration comes from a lack of | | | | counselor facilitate these type of conversations. |
| understanding of their own feelings. They are | | | | The bottom line is if your child appears to have a |
| unable to identify and express what they are | | | | low tolerance for frustration and it is happening |
| feeling so they lump all the 'bad' feelings together. | | | | more frequently, then they need help |
| The parents see the overflow of 'bad' feelings | | | | understanding what it happening to them. This kind |
| come out at once. It's important that we don't | | | | of help can come from a number of places and |
| take them personally even when they seem as | | | | the most important player is the parent. Don't |
| though they are directed at us. Aspergers' kids | | | | take it personally, rather understand they are |
| want to tell what is on their mind and most of | | | | literally brimming over with 'bad' emotions and |
| the time they don't know how to say it properly | | | | don't realize what they are doing. |