Children With Aspergers - How to Help Them Deal With Bullying

Children with autism and aspergers have a greatsocial worker and/or teacher incorporate
number of positive characteristics. Unfortunately,education about tolerance with persons who have
the sensitivities of children on the playground anddisabilities, who are differently abled.
the social scene in middle and high school can be3) Seek to network and connect with other
very different from adults who have a lot morefamilies who have children on the spectrum.
education and sensitivity toward those who areGoogle autism or aspergers support groups in
different.your area. You may find that there are children
Parents may suspect that their children are beingon the spectrum who have successfully navigated
bullied when the show some of the following signsthrough the social landmines of middle and high
and symptoms:school. Wrong Planet is an online forum started by
- Missing or broken possessionsand for Aspies. You may find additional support
- Torn clothing or clothing and other items thatand solutions there.
have been scribbled on4) If you child with Aspergers or autism is seeing
- Frequent cuts and bruisesa counselor or child psychologist, that therapist
- Increased anxietycan work with your child in the context of social
- School refusal, cutting classesskills training to learn how to be assertive and
- Complaints of digestive upset or headacheshow to deal with bullying. Izzy Kalman, a school
- Sleep deprivationpsychologist has written some free material at his
- Depressionsite, Bullies2Buddies, that can provide your child
- Morbid or suicidal thoughtswith the scripts and mindset to handle the mental
- Personality change, modeling bullying behavior atand social challenges that come with bullying.
home What is a parent to do if they suspect that5) Ask the school social worker or home room
some of this is going on?teacher if there are students who are assertive
1) Help the child understand his/her diagnosis. It'sand compassionate enough to serve as social
important for the child and the parents to have amentors and friends to your child with Aspergers.
working understanding of how the child's mind6) Encourage your child to join extracurricular
works and why s/he may be having some of theactivities at school which are in sync with their
difficulties in school. Understanding the plusses andinterests and abilities. By joining these activities
being able to work on areas of growth are key inthey may connect with peers who can become a
addressing the bullying.safe haven for them at school.
2) Help the teacher, school social worker, andThis is a partial list of suggestions that is open to
principal understand your child's diagnosis. Presentfeedback from you, the reader. What have been
them with articles such as this one to help themyour experiences, and what are some solutions
understand some of the unique struggles thatyou recommend?
your child may be going through. Request that the