Advocate Your Child

As a parent, you have to do what is in yourIt is very important to stay in tune with your child
child's best interest. Sometimes that can be aand his/her development. Not that I am saying
scary and uncertain road. Relying on what yourthat you should monitor every move like a hawk.
gut instinct is telling you is usually the right road toYou also shouldn't compare your child with every
follow.other child you come across. However, be aware
No one knows a child as well as the parents.of how they are developing and note any
(When I say parents, that could also mean aconcerns.
child's caretaker such as grandparents or whoeverAfter doing a tremendous amount of research on
is raising the child). If you think that there mightthis subject, I have noticed the same things
be something that is not quite right, then youcoming up over and over again. Autism, ADHD
need to investigate it immediately. Of course, itand speech delays seeem to all be on the rise.
could be nothing but what if it isn't....DON'T beThe one thing that seems clear is that the earlier
afraid of what you might find out. DO be afraid ofa problem is detected and treatment is started,
doing nothing.the better off the child is in the long run.
Could Something Be Wrong?Where Do I Start To Get Help?
Does my child have a problem?Talk to your pediatrician if you have any concerns
That nagging thought keeps returning to yourThe first thing to do is to call your pediatrician
mind. You push it away and carry on with life.with any concerns you might have. Be very
However, it keeps coming back until one day youinsistent about what you are saying. All to often
have to decide to deal with it. Make that dayparents get brushed off and told that everything
sooner rather than later. Don't waste preciousis just fine. This is where advocating your child
time trying to decide for yourself if something isstarts.
wrong. Seek professional help!Don't be afraid of sounding silly or being accused
Maybe you have noticed that your child is notof worrying too much. Your child is too important
talking as well as other children. Possibly your childto worry about your pride. The best thing to do is
is not meeting his/her milestones on time.to be prepared when you speak to the doctor.
Sometimes there is just something that is "off"Make a list of everything that you want to talk
that you can't even put your finger on. Does anyabout. That way, you can't forget something or
of this sound familiar?get sidetracked during the conversation. It is very
If you are in those shoes, keep reading andhelpful to have a log of your child as well. You can
maybe you will find some advice that will help you.note in the log when and how often a particular
Trust me, I have been there.behavior occurs.
No One Else Sees It.........The pediatrician will probably refer you to a
That might be, but YOU dospecialist. Depending on your child's situation, the
Your family tells you that they don't thinkdoctor might also refer you to your local early
anything is wrong. Your friends tell you that youintervention program that is available in each
are worrying too much and everything is just fine.county.
It would be so easy to listen to those wellNow That You Know The Truth........
meaning people, wouldn't it?Advocate your child to a bright future
As I said before, go with your gut. You are theOnce you have a diagnosis, you will have a firmer
one that lives with the child daily. You see thingsgrip on how to help your child. You can find the
that other people don't. Don't let yourself getright resources and help. Your advocacy role is
talked out of seeking answers and help. Be yournot over yet.
child's advocate before the problem is evenThere might be many "battles" ahead. Problems
identified. You don't want to look back later andwith insurance, the school system, peers and
regret not acting sooner.even doctors are bound to arise. Just remember
There is always the possibility that nothing isto push for the best and expect the best when it
wrong after all. That would be wonderful! At leastcomes to helping your child. You got him this far,
you would know that you investigated your child'snow continue to make his future the brightest it
every possible need.can be!
Different Types of Concerns