ADD-ADHD - Developing Confidence in School

Do you know why you have ADD/ADHD?a hard time creating structure within their own
Because you are extremely intelligent! No, I amminds, so they must rely on structure from
not being sarcastic. In fact, I could not be moreoutside sources and develop habitual routines to
sincere. Most people with ADD/ADHD (hereinhelp them keep track of their responsibilities and
called ADHD) have such a strong interest in abelongings. For example, one man I know with
great variety of things, they have a hard timeADHD explained, "I was always leaving things
maintaining focus on one thing at a time. Ofbehind in restaurants and stores; my wallet, keys,
course, there are additional reasons too, but I amjacket, briefcase, diaper bag, etc. So I started
here to tell you that every person I know withgetting in the habit of looking back every time I
ADHD (friends, relatives, and students) have anleft a table, seat, or check-out counter to make
extraordinary number of talents and are allsure I didn't leave anything. It works well. I
extremely bright. So, why do so many studentshaven't left anything behind in years!"
with ADHD struggle in school?Good routines to develop for school include using
The traditional school environment is not verya planner, taking a few minutes at the end of
exciting for most students, but especially studentsevery day to clean garbage out of your book bag
with ADHD. What they (and some of theirand put papers in your folders, and gather
teachers) fail to realize is that school is not boringeverything you need for school the night before
because the information is too complex. On theso you don't forget anything in the chaos of the
contrary...school is boring because there is oftenmorning.
not enough activity to keep their active mindsFind a mentor. When you are trying to develop
engaged.routines and change habits to be successful in
One common characteristic of people with ADHDschool, it is always helpful to have someone who
is that they learn best by doing; they prefer tocan be your "sounding board," who can help
get their hands on something and figure out howmotivate you, and keep you focused. A good
it works rather than read about how it works.mentor should be a responsible and trusted adult
They typically represent the epitome of "handsor older student whom you trust; perhaps a
on, minds on" learners. However, in most schoolneighbor, aunt/uncle, tutor, personal coach,
situations, there is way too much idle time sittingcommunity volunteer, peer counselor or student
at desks.from a local high school or college. Try to avoid
Many parents of students with ADHD say thathaving your parent fill this role because you are
their children do best when they can be involvedlikely to quickly perceive your parents as "nagging"
in class by helping the teacher or having someyou rather than encouraging you. A mentor may
type of leadership role. They thrive on projectssometimes "nag," but is often easier to take it
and the opportunity to investigate the answer tofrom someone other than a parent.
a problem.Your mentor will help you identify some goals and
Is ADHD Really a Disorder?check in with you every other day or two-three
I have always hated the term "Attention Deficittimes per week to see what you are doing to
Disorder!" My observations, from knowing andreach those goals and offer you encouragement.
working with dozens of friends, relatives, andThey should be available to listen to you vent
students who have ADHD are that they justwhen you are frustrated and may have some
have to make some additional accommodationssuggestions to help you. Of course, your mentor
to function in our modern society.will also be on hand to help you celebrate each of
For example, I am left-handed and the wholeyour accomplishments along the way, even the
world is backwards for me. I can never usesmall ones.
scissors without looking like I have a physicalTake it one step at a time. Try to figure out the
disability. I always get ink smears on my handone area that is causing you the greatest problem
when I write because my hand glides right overand work on this first. You may want to talk to
the freshly written words. When I have to signyour parents, teachers, and even your mentor to
my name on a credit card machine, the stylus isdetermine where to start. For example, if your
always on the wrong side of the machine and myteachers tell you that the main reason that your
signature looks like that of a kindergartner. Thegrades are falling is because you are not turning in
desks in college were all backwards for me so Iyour assignments, then you know that this is
had to learn how to write on my lap and lookedwhat you should try to improve first. Get help
like I was hunchback.from your teachers, guidance counselors, parents,
Does this mean I have a disorder? Of course not!your mentor, and the free Homework Rx®
It just means that I need to make someToolkit at our website to help you determine
accommodations and accept the fact that peoplestrategies that will help you with this one problem.
will make fun of me when I use scissors or try toGive it one or two months and then identify the
pay for my groceries. Technically, ADHD is anext problem.
disorder because it is a medical condition causedDo not give up! Everyone has moments when
by an imbalance of chemicals in the brain and canthey fall backwards as they try to reach their
be treated medically, but the word "disorder"goals; everyone from straight-A students to the
makes it sound as if there is something wrongCEO of a major company. This is a natural part
with people who have ADHD. On the contrary.of life. The key for anyone to be successful,
For most people, it is simply a process of makinghowever, is to pick yourself up, dust yourself off,
some adjustments.and keep moving. You'll see positive results very
What Are Those Adjustments?soon!
There are an infinite number of strategies and© 2006 Susan Kruger, All rights reserved. You
tricks that may be helpful for people who haveare free to use this article in whole or in part in
ADHD and most will be a matter of what worksprint, on a web site, or in an email newsletter, as
best for each individual. However, there are threelong as you include complete attribution, including
factors that are key to making any strategylive web site link. Please also notify me where the
successful:material will appear.
Develop healthy routines. People with ADHD have