Achieving Self-Control With Autism

Self-discipline is a skill that most autistic childrenminutes ask the child how he or she is doing. Is
have trouble acquiring. This includes not onlythe goal being met? If the answer is no, perhaps
inappropriate outbursts, but also habits that canthe child is not ready for self-management, or
be potentially dangerous, such as being aggressiveperhaps the goals are too unattainable. You want
towards others or causing harm to themselves,to make sure that the goals are easy to reach at
such as banging their heads off walls. To preventfirst, and then move the child towards more
these and other behaviors, one technique parentsdifficult goals in the future. When a child is
and educators can use to control autisticsuccessful at self-monitoring, he or she will have a
tendencies is self-management. Giving the childmore positive attitude towards the experience.
power over him- or herself is often the key toOf course, an important part of self-management
keeping control over violent situations and may beis a rewards system. Have the child come up with
a positive step towards learning other behaviorshis or her own reward, depending on interest.
as well.Reinforcement will make these good behavior
Self-management works because the child is nogoals more clearly marked in the child's mind, and
longer fully controlled by others. By teachingby choosing and rewarding him- or herself, the
self-management during specific times of day,child will feel completely in control of the
such as while the child is at school or therapy, theself-management system. Choose simple rewards
child will be more likely to continue to practicingto start, such as smiley faces for every goal met
self-control during all times of the day. The key isand sad faces for every goal not met, and work
to implement a program in which he or sheup to a larger goal, such as a special activity or
monitors his or her own behavior and activities.new toy when a certain amount of smiley faces
Begin with short amounts of time, and continue tohas been attained.
monitor the child from a more passive standpoint.These types of programs do not develop
Every ten to fifteen minutes remind the child thatovernight, so it is important that you and the child
he or she is in control and needs to monitor andhave enough time to devote to a
be aware of good and bad behavior.self-management experience. By reinforcing good
This monitoring is a form of self-evaluation. Whenbehavior with rewards, as determined by the child
a child is in control, he or she may think moreinstead of by an adult, he or she will be more
closely about behavior in the past and present.likely to carry this on even when not participating
Set clear goals with the child-for example, anin the program. If your autistic child is mature
afternoon with no aggression towards others or aenough, this could be a good treatment program
day at school with no self-injury. Every fifteento try.